What is an attachment style?

An attachment style describes the patterns of behavior and emotional response a person shows in close relationships. It comes from the attachment theory of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, and is commonly divided into secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful types.

Is this quiz accurate?

This quiz is a self-assessment based on attachment theory. It helps you notice your patterns in relationships and is not a clinical diagnosis. Results can shift as your self-awareness and relationship experience grow.

How many attachment styles are there?

There are four common types: secure, anxious (craves closeness but fears abandonment), avoidant (uncomfortable with dependence, keeps distance), and fearful (conflicting and hard to predict).

How long does the quiz take?

It has 12 questions and takes about three minutes. It scores all four attachment styles at once and helps you locate your attachment coordinates.

Attachment Style Quiz

12 questions, about three minutes. You get scored on all four styles at once—secure, anxious, avoidant, fearful—so you see where you actually sit instead of being pinned to one label.

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All 12 questions in this test

Below is the full list of questions and options for this attachment style test. Pick the answer that sounds most like you for each one; whichever category you choose most often—secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful—is the pattern you lean on most.

Question 1　When someone gets emotionally close to me…
- AI enjoy the closeness.
- BI want closeness but worry I'll lose it.
- CI prefer to keep some distance.
- DI want closeness but also feel overwhelmed.
Question 2　If my partner takes hours to reply…
- AI assume they're busy.
- BI worry they've lost interest in me.
- CI don't overthink it.
- DI feel hurt and want to withdraw.
Question 3　In relationships, I usually…
- ACommunicate openly.
- BNeed a lot of reassurance.
- CValue my independence most.
- DOften feel conflicted.
Question 4　When conflict happens…
- AI try to resolve it calmly.
- BI'm afraid of being abandoned.
- CI shut down.
- DI get emotional and then pull away.
Question 5　When someone says they love me…
- AI feel grateful.
- BI need to hear it often.
- CI feel pressured.
- DI both want it and fear it.
Question 6　How do you react to feeling vulnerable?
- AI'm quite comfortable with it.
- BI worry I'm not good enough.
- CI avoid showing too much.
- DI want to share but don't feel safe.
Question 7　How do you usually feel after a fight?
- ARelieved once we've talked.
- BAfraid the relationship might end.
- CNeed space alone.
- DUnsure whether to reconnect or disappear.
Question 8　If my partner wants more closeness…
- AI welcome it.
- BI become dependent.
- CI feel smothered.
- DI both want it and resist it.
Question 9　Which line sounds most like you?
- ALove makes me feel safe.
- BLove makes me feel uncertain.
- CLove threatens my freedom.
- DLove makes me feel unpredictable.
Question 10　When someone lets me down…
- AI talk about it.
- BI overthink it.
- CI emotionally detach.
- DI grow distant and down.
Question 11　How I usually handle emotional needs…
- AI express them directly.
- BI seek reassurance.
- CI suppress them.
- DI feel confused by them.
Question 12　Which describes your ideal relationship?
- ASafe and balanced.
- BConstant closeness.
- CIndependent and low-pressure.
- DDeep but not too intense.

Go with your first reaction rather than overthinking it. There are no right or wrong answers, only ones that fit you better or worse.